Nicole Mantzikopoulou, Sept 2019
As we are into the holidays season, it is important to realize the role of rest in our life.
Generally, it’s really hard to improve our physical wellness when other parts of our life might be under stress or unhealthy. For example, if your job is causing you to stress or you’ve lost your excitement for what you do, you might find that it is difficult to rest. But if you can find a new way to view work or make a change that allows you to love what you do, resting becomes much easier and deep.
But it also works the other way around: one of the elements that can support you to gain perspective on your life’s situation is the element of rest - a cornerstone issue for many.
REST AND SLEEP
Discussing rest is crucial when it comes to wellness. Nevertheless, the overall attitude toward rest is to try to minimize it as much as possible. We put value on getting more done, being more productive, and being more efficient - and we have lost our value for rest. Our quality and quantity of rest have decreased, causing many problems ranging from minor health issues to major challenges.
When we think of resting, we often think of sleeping. That can include going to bed at night or it might also include thinking of a midday nap. Generally, we all know that sleep affects the rest of our lives in major ways, and those who suffer from insomnia and ongoing sleep issues feel this the most acutely.
When we’re sleeping well most nights, we’re able to get more done and feel more vibrant during the day. But when we’re having issues getting enough quality sleep every night, we’re going to really struggle to get through the day.
But when we’re talking about rest, we mean more than just sleep. Rest is a bigger idea than that. It’s all about valuing our self-care practices. Rest also includes our downtime and the ways that we intentionally slow down. It’s all about taking time to enjoy a hobby, relaxing entertainment, or restful activities. Rest is about the things we can do to release stress, calm our bodies, and power down our minds for a while.
BALANCE YOUR REST ELEMENT
So you know that rest is critical to your overall well-being and wellness practice. But how do you find ways to get more quality rest? Here are some great ideas to help you find more restfulness.
1. Consider how you are sleeping.
Since a good night’s sleep is crucial to our overall practice of rest, it makes sense to start there. Everyone needs a set number of hours of sleep each night, usually between 6-9 hours. We’re all a little bit different, so the exact number of hours will individually vary. Depending on how much stress we’re juggling in our lives, our personal needs for sleep might increase or decrease, as well.
It’s important to give your sleep some attention. Do you feel like you’re getting enough quality sleep every night? Or are you getting enough sleep, but not feeling rested? Do you have a hard time falling asleep and staying asleep? After a night’s rest, do you have enough energy for the day or do you always feel like you’re dragging? What kinds of things can you do to make sleep easier for you?
2. Increase the time you spend doing self-care.
Taking care of ourselves is something that is seriously minimized in our modern worlds. We’ve all got long to-do lists and we frantically rush through our days trying to get it all done. But the old adage of filling your own cup so that you can fill others’ still applies. We’re never going to feel satisfied with our lives or be able to achieve our goals if we’re running on empty.
Time is always a factor when it comes to self-care. One way to create more time is to subtract things that you don’t need to be doing and that aren’t giving you anything of value. You can also find things that you’re doing that maybe you could do some time in the future instead. Self-care is worth prioritizing, so take some time to analyze your schedule to find ways to reduce your demands. Then plug in as much self-care and rest time as you possibly can.
3. Pay attention to your energy levels.
You might be one of the lucky ones who sleep well and then wake up energized and ready to start your day. Or you might wake up dragging from the first moment your feet hit the floor. Notice your energy levels at the beginning of the day, but also pay close attention to how they change throughout the day.
Do you feel exhausted by lunchtime? Are you loading up on caffeine just to get through the day? Are you dragging all day long and then lying in bed wide awake at night? Keep a journal to keep track of your energy levels, then compare it to other activities and the food you’re eating to discover patterns and correlations.
4. Check in with other aspects of life.
Oftentimes, our quality and quantity of rest are directly affected by other aspects of our lives. If you’re struggling through a bad patch with your boss, your partner or your kid, it might be really hard to sleep at night. It is true that many parameters can be making it hard for us to go to sleep and to stay asleep. And in the same way, they can also make us feel less motivated to engage in self-care, right during a time when we might need it the most.
So go take a look and think about how other elements might be pushing your element of Rest out of balance. Is there a relationship you need to work on to bring you more peace of mind? Is there anything you need to do but you are constantly postponing because you do not know how to start? Do you need to work on your nutrition and cut back on caffeine? What parts of your life could use some attention?
GET BETTER REST AND SLEEP
Taking good care of yourself is essential to achieving wellness. This includes focusing on resting more, giving yourself better self-care, and ensuring that your sleep each night is restful. It’s crucial to think of your rest and sleep patterns. This will help you support your overall goals. You’ll also feel much better in the short term and the long term.
It’s important to note that using electronics is not a true form of self-care. Playing on your phone, watching television or engaging in social media might feel like a mental break from something else you are working on, but it’s more of a “numbing out” rather than a “tuning in” to what our body and mind needs. While using electronics might feel relaxing, it is not truly restorative.
Find here some ideas of what you can do to rest:
Holidays are a great opportunity to start a new pattern on rest. And after that period, you must continue including rest habits in your every day, to achieve a better balance in your life. You owe it to yourself.
Nicole Mantzikopoulou, July 2019
It is that time of the year. You are patiently waiting for the days to pass so that you can find yourself in a beautiful place and relax. Or maybe you had had the opportunity to do that already and are waiting to do it again, in the next few weeks.
Be as it may, summer is the perfect time for a pause. Not only for a mental-body recharge, but also to review what has been achieved so far in the year. Not to be ready to scold yourselves or feel stressful, but to be prepared to take action to achieve those goals that are meaningful. Remember, this is your life, the only person that you have to respond to is yourself.
So here are some good questions that can help you create awareness of where you are:
Being in a relaxing, inspiring place will help you answer these questions. And then you will feel more empowered to continue on your journey.
Nicole Mantzikopoulou, July 2019
Those who know me will say that I am a practical person, focused entirely on results - a quality that has been following me since I can remember myself. Theory is great, but things need to be applied in order to be useful and meaningful. Words and ideas bombard us every day. But what is it that really works and deserves our attention?
If you are a little like me, you would like to apply things in your life that have proven to work. You would like to know which strategies and procedures can - not maybe, but certainly - improve your daily routine when you decide to follow them. Life is short, why should we re-invent the wheel? We can pass through the steps that have already been taken and faster – if not immediately- reach essence and substantial change.
With this thought, I began to meet people who are considered by society successful, acclaimed, leaders, to see how they have achieved to reach their goals. One individual would introduced me to the next, so I created a colorfulweb with many faces and many different approaches. By composing this net, it was obvious that the principles by which these people guide their lives are not at all accidental, nor is the way they were formed. Those principles were sought - consciously or subconsciously - recognized and then used, as an unmistakable compass on their journey. This does not necessarily mean that the route was easy, but it means that it was authentic, full of true drive and focused on purpose.
You can find here below some of the common threads:
Someone included in a small phrase, all the essence of his existence and his stunning attitude to life:“Simply by being here, I have it all. So I can contribute, add value and be happy”.
If you recognize these treats on yourself, you know what you are made of. Keep walking and shine your light to the rest of us.
The other day, one of my students came to visit me and gave me the great idea to include on this blog themes answering the question above, so as to help readers in coping with their everyday.
Thus, what are those things that, if we knew them at the beginnings of our lives, would have led us to a different understanding of Self and others and consequently, to different, more productive behaviors?
In every living moment, we project our beliefs. At least 85% of those are comprised of the things that we absorbed from our environment at the age of 0-8 years old. Those beliefs are now embedded within our system and had shaped the reality in which we live - and continue shaping it, every single day of our existence.
Let’s examine how this truth applies to a more practical situation: What happens during a conversation between two people?
When people talk to each other, what is really “talking” is their belief systems. In every single moment, they project what is on their mind and interpret what is happening around them as correct and proper or wrong and distressful.
If people feel like they are not in agreement, it is the particular belief system of each that is in disagreement and may lead them to feel angry, have intense disputes or even fights. It’s not that these people are difficult, wrong or mean, it is that their upbringing and experiences thus far have created a different “software” in their brain from which they operate. Nothing more and nothing else than that.
If we all were to have the same heredity, the same upbringing, and the same experiences as the next person, we would probably behave as the next person. Nevertheless, the stimuli that each of us face every day are bountiful. This suggest that two people cannot be equal - even if they are identical twins, living with the same parents, going to the same school and having the same surroundings. Their beliefs system will not be in absolute accordance.
So, here is the thought: if we know that, by default, we are not equal to each other, then why we expect to have same perspectives, opinions and behaviors? And even more, if we know that others process information differently, which dictates their specific behaviors that might differ from our own, why do we get upset, angry, sad, disappointed or frustrated?
How can you use these knowledge: in every single encounter with others, you will exchange your thoughts and they will do the same. Thus, what are they saying? Listen to it carefully. It is not that they are agreeing or opposing to what you are telling them. They are just expressing what they consciously or unconsciously believe in. If you show up with your Ego, you might get irritated. If you show up with your new knowledge, a new intent to be constructive will dictate and support your next steps.
The solution is simple: You should try to communicate with candid aim to understand the other party and build a common route that will support yours and their intent. Empathy, Acceptance, Compassion is the name of the game.
How often do you consciously apply these principles in your everyday life?
By answering that simple question you will be able to monitor the quality of your relationships today, and even more, the level of your own development and growth.
Nicole Mantzikopoulou, May 2019
In the last few years, the changes I have gone through in my life have brought interesting learnings for me. One of the more precious is that it would be meaningless, or absurd to resist adversity. That doesn’t mean that I would not try to understand or work with it, it means that I do not oppose to it to the point that I allow it to consume me until it exhausts me.
Successful people seem to bounce back from adversity faster than others. Somehow, in facing what others would call failure, they find their inner strength and become more than they were before. How quickly they recover from disappointment, difficulties, sadness or pain, can determine how readily they are to re-establish their position of confidence and well-being.
Thus, resilient individuals choose not to let difficulties delimit who they are. Quite often people define themselves by what they do and not by who they are. This is not very helpful when facing a setback. It is better to adopt and train yourself into acquiring a new stance in life, that will support you face the challenges that may arise.
Here are four steps that you can apply to lead yourself out of any challenging situation:
Nicole Mantzikopoulou, March 2019
Every so often I ask my clients and my students to pose for a minute and take a deep breath. I do that when I see them stressed, overwhelmed, frustrated. I know all too well, that In today’s fast paced world, it’s hard to be in the reality of the present moment - which is all we have - and very easily, we get distracted by the demands of the day to day, so we end up disconnected from our true essence.
The worse thing about being in that situation is that we mainly connect with a sense of fear, contraction, sadness, disappointment, confusion and other limiting emotions and thoughts that push us to just get by. We feel a constant struggle and restrict our capacity to be our own true selves, share our gifts, make love to life and embrace all the magic that it can offer to us.
Sometimes in life, one idea is enough to shake our whole existence. That idea was for me that every thought I make, shapes my present and my future. That every thought I make, gives my brain a command about what it should bring into my perspective.
When you try out this idea and are convinced that it does work, you are in a better position to understand, not only how did you get where you are, but also, how you can change everything to the better, focusing on empowering thoughts and finding the energy to design a new strategy that will lead to your goals.
Quite often, I meet people who feel that something is missing out in their lives and set their intention to go ahead and get it. But I soon realize that, with the exception of some flashing moments, they are not really willing to do what is required, and so they continue to spend their lives on moaning and sorrow for what is not happening - even if deep down they are aware that it is up to them to take the steps needed. I understand this behavior. It is difficult to part from the habits and the "image" of life that have accompanied them for many years. All the more so when this image is constantly being validated by their environment.
Prerequisite towards meaningful support of self and others
I am often asked how I come up with my next article. I smile and answer that it is my experience on the moment that always dictates the theme. So, this time I am talking about detachment and empathy, as I came repeatedly across the challenges that people encounter in applying them in their everyday life.
Detachment and empathy are possibly among the most misunderstood behaviors or most difficult to exercise. It is hard for people to grasp how they can care for something or someone, and still be detached from what that person or the situation is creating or even yet, how they can show empathy for situations that are not related to their own experience.
It is quite common, on the first days of January, some people to be very focused on properly recording their goals. They write, rewrite, correct, add, remove things in their list. This period helps make them feel strong and hopeful, since a new year is just starting, and the goals set promise it will be amazing.
Ι was also in that mood, when I saw a cartoon of Quinto on Mafalda, which was confiding in the reader: “It is not the new year that needs to be better, it is you”.
That is a critical question, because when you dare to answer it honestly and firmly, you are deciding about the rest of your life. And it is ok whatever that decision might be, as long as it is a conscious one.
You might feel you don’t belong in your job.
As we are well into the holiday’s season, we all get in a behavior of spending, to secure we are going to be aligned with the festivities. Nevertheless, it is interesting to watch some patterns as they block our potential for joy. And yes, what would be more appropriate to talk about at this period, than abundance?
Abundance is one of my favorite subjects, as, when you conquer the feeling of abundance, you are setting yourself prepared to conquer the world. Nothing is impossible if you feel free, satisfied and ready to focus on your development, your evolution, your growth. You are doing things, not because you need them and your well-being depends on them, but because they help you move to the next level in your life.
Abundance is a mindset, a way of seeing your reality. And like any mindset, it is also a choice, a choice that you can make right now, in this moment, and every day of your life.
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Joy is one of my very favorite parts of being alive. Joy resonates with every cell in our body because it is our original state, what we were created to feel and to live in. I actually think it’s probably everybody’s favorite thing; they just maybe haven’t given it that name yet.
I’m a bit of a workaholic. Okay, that might be an understatement. I’m a lifelong, die-hard workaholic, and business is addictive to me.
Creative visualization is an excellent method that is gaining acceptance in the scientific community because of the ease of its implementation, its wide accessibility and availability to each of us and of course, the immediacy of its results. Moreover, it can be a very enjoyable or even a fun process.
WHAT IS IT?
Creative visualization is the process in which you use your imagination to formulate what you are looking to experience, aiming to gradually gain familiarity with “the energy” of this experience and finally attract it. This technique orientates your brain (conscious and subconscious) toward your aspirations and your dreams, even if they seem unattainable to you at the moment. Essentially, you send messages to your mind, clearly defining your goals and objectives and thereby mobilizing the mechanisms necessary for identifying opportunities and forming attitudes that will lead to the achievement of your objectives.
WHERE IS ITS EFFECTIVENESS BASED ON?
As the scientific community confirms, our universe is pure energy. Everything in the universe is energy and everything is surrounded by a magnetic field. Consequently, all our thoughts and feelings have their own magnetic energy and attract energy of the same quality and vibration.
We use very often the phrase "you will reap what you sow", stating the substance of these processes in the universe. Many of us, however, do not realize this truth in the sense expressed here. The message is very simple: In our lives, we attract whatever we think of the most often and whatever we believe in the most, whether it is positive or not. This means that we might attract whatever we fear and want to avoid the most, if we constantly think about it.
HOW DOES IT WORK?
It is important to understand that the process of creative visualization is performed in deep levels of consciousness. Although dreaming and thinking positively is legitimate, and is the initial action in the process of change and evolution, it is not enough. Creative visualization includes exploring, discovering and changing our approach and attitude towards life. It is another statement we are making to ourselves that we are taking responsibility of our lives. Applying it regularly may lead us to deep and meaningful progress and development.
The process of visualization seeks to let the person enter a state of relaxation and maintain it, because in a state like this, the frequency of brain waves changes and becomes slower and deeper. This level of brain waves is called level A.
Level A is a very healthy state of consciousness in which you can change or even create your own reality. In this state, your brain is not able to perceive if something is happening in your environment, or if you are imagining it. When entering this visualization process, you can guide your thoughts and feelings to create the vibration you desire.
CREATIVE VISUALISATION METHODOLOGIES
There are two different kinds of creative visualization. The first is demonstrative, guided visualization, in which we receive guidance in creating internal representations (images, sounds, smells, etc.) and the second is energetic visualisation in which we create internal representations that reflect what we want to experience.
Not all people envision in the same way: others see clear images; others think or have the impression that they can feel these images. There is no right or wrong way to do this. Whatever your way, it is the right one for you and this is the way you will be able to achieve the results you want.
This process is completely safe as nothing can be done, that would be harmful to you. It is a process that you create and control by using your intellectual capabilities. You are completely safe.
Visualisations are aimed for our inner self and this why they are always in the first person. As with all things, practice makes perfect and will create familiarity and comfort when using them.
Choose whichever meditation methodology fits your present issues or goals and repeat it every day, consistently, at least for one week. Let yourself enjoy the journey that has so much to offer you and watch yourself slowly enter another plane of thought. Soon, you will see your feelings change; you will be more positive and motivated to take action, which in turn will bring you to the path you have chosen.
If lately you have been feeling that you deserve something more than the life you are currently living, then this article was written for you and the questions which I will set, shall help you open a new way of possibilities and witness things from a different angle.
If you started reading this article, congratulation. You have proven that you want your kids to have a wonderful life in financial terms and you are taking action to achieve it. For that to happen, though, they need to be taught some few lessons regarding the mindset and the practice that will lead them there.