Quite often, I meet people who feel that something is missing out in their lives and set their intention to go ahead and get it. But I soon realize that, with the exception of some flashing moments, they are not really willing to do what is required, and so they continue to spend their lives on moaning and sorrow for what is not happening - even if deep down they are aware that it is up to them to take the steps needed. I understand this behavior. It is difficult to part from the habits and the "image" of life that have accompanied them for many years. All the more so when this image is constantly being validated by their environment.
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I am often asked how I come up with my next article. I smile and answer that it is my experience on the moment that always dictates the theme. So, this time I am talking about detachment and empathy, as I came repeatedly across the challenges that people encounter in applying them in their everyday life.
Detachment and empathy are possibly among the most misunderstood behaviors or most difficult to exercise. It is hard for people to grasp how they can care for something or someone, and still be detached from what that person or the situation is creating or even yet, how they can show empathy for situations that are not related to their own experience.
It is quite common, on the first days of January, some people to be very focused on properly recording their goals. They write, rewrite, correct, add, remove things in their list. This period helps make them feel strong and hopeful, since a new year is just starting, and the goals set promise it will be amazing.
Ι was also in that mood, when I saw a cartoon of Quinto on Mafalda, which was confiding in the reader: “It is not the new year that needs to be better, it is you”.
That is a critical question, because when you dare to answer it honestly and firmly, you are deciding about the rest of your life. And it is ok whatever that decision might be, as long as it is a conscious one.
You might feel you don’t belong in your job.
As we are well into the holiday’s season, we all get in a behavior of spending, to secure we are going to be aligned with the festivities. Nevertheless, it is interesting to watch some patterns as they block our potential for joy. And yes, what would be more appropriate to talk about at this period, than abundance?
Abundance is one of my favorite subjects, as, when you conquer the feeling of abundance, you are setting yourself prepared to conquer the world. Nothing is impossible if you feel free, satisfied and ready to focus on your development, your evolution, your growth. You are doing things, not because you need them and your well-being depends on them, but because they help you move to the next level in your life.
Abundance is a mindset, a way of seeing your reality. And like any mindset, it is also a choice, a choice that you can make right now, in this moment, and every day of your life.
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Joy is one of my very favorite parts of being alive. Joy resonates with every cell in our body because it is our original state, what we were created to feel and to live in. I actually think it’s probably everybody’s favorite thing; they just maybe haven’t given it that name yet.
I’m a bit of a workaholic. Okay, that might be an understatement. I’m a lifelong, die-hard workaholic, and business is addictive to me.
Creative visualization is an excellent method that is gaining acceptance in the scientific community because of the ease of its implementation, its wide accessibility and availability to each of us and of course, the immediacy of its results. Moreover, it can be a very enjoyable or even a fun process.
WHAT IS IT?
Creative visualization is the process in which you use your imagination to formulate what you are looking to experience, aiming to gradually gain familiarity with “the energy” of this experience and finally attract it. This technique orientates your brain (conscious and subconscious) toward your aspirations and your dreams, even if they seem unattainable to you at the moment. Essentially, you send messages to your mind, clearly defining your goals and objectives and thereby mobilizing the mechanisms necessary for identifying opportunities and forming attitudes that will lead to the achievement of your objectives.
WHERE IS ITS EFFECTIVENESS BASED ON?
As the scientific community confirms, our universe is pure energy. Everything in the universe is energy and everything is surrounded by a magnetic field. Consequently, all our thoughts and feelings have their own magnetic energy and attract energy of the same quality and vibration.
We use very often the phrase "you will reap what you sow", stating the substance of these processes in the universe. Many of us, however, do not realize this truth in the sense expressed here. The message is very simple: In our lives, we attract whatever we think of the most often and whatever we believe in the most, whether it is positive or not. This means that we might attract whatever we fear and want to avoid the most, if we constantly think about it.
HOW DOES IT WORK?
It is important to understand that the process of creative visualization is performed in deep levels of consciousness. Although dreaming and thinking positively is legitimate, and is the initial action in the process of change and evolution, it is not enough. Creative visualization includes exploring, discovering and changing our approach and attitude towards life. It is another statement we are making to ourselves that we are taking responsibility of our lives. Applying it regularly may lead us to deep and meaningful progress and development.
The process of visualization seeks to let the person enter a state of relaxation and maintain it, because in a state like this, the frequency of brain waves changes and becomes slower and deeper. This level of brain waves is called level A.
Level A is a very healthy state of consciousness in which you can change or even create your own reality. In this state, your brain is not able to perceive if something is happening in your environment, or if you are imagining it. When entering this visualization process, you can guide your thoughts and feelings to create the vibration you desire.
CREATIVE VISUALISATION METHODOLOGIES
There are two different kinds of creative visualization. The first is demonstrative, guided visualization, in which we receive guidance in creating internal representations (images, sounds, smells, etc.) and the second is energetic visualisation in which we create internal representations that reflect what we want to experience.
Not all people envision in the same way: others see clear images; others think or have the impression that they can feel these images. There is no right or wrong way to do this. Whatever your way, it is the right one for you and this is the way you will be able to achieve the results you want.
This process is completely safe as nothing can be done, that would be harmful to you. It is a process that you create and control by using your intellectual capabilities. You are completely safe.
Visualisations are aimed for our inner self and this why they are always in the first person. As with all things, practice makes perfect and will create familiarity and comfort when using them.
Choose whichever meditation methodology fits your present issues or goals and repeat it every day, consistently, at least for one week. Let yourself enjoy the journey that has so much to offer you and watch yourself slowly enter another plane of thought. Soon, you will see your feelings change; you will be more positive and motivated to take action, which in turn will bring you to the path you have chosen.
If lately you have been feeling that you deserve something more than the life you are currently living, then this article was written for you and the questions which I will set, shall help you open a new way of possibilities and witness things from a different angle.
If you started reading this article, congratulation. You have proven that you want your kids to have a wonderful life in financial terms and you are taking action to achieve it. For that to happen, though, they need to be taught some few lessons regarding the mindset and the practice that will lead them there.
Most of us are getting back from holidays and the transformation that Summer can bring. Yes, a new season is starting. For me, this is marked by the fact that I receive innumerable request to work with people that wish to make a career change- possibly due to my having done exactly that, 6 years ago. Although there is lots of ground to cover when we are to search or do such a big change in our life - internal work, I mean, with ourselves - I am including here some things that you should try to invest upon, to prepare for such a change.
This is one of the most common questions that people come to me with. And it is also a souce of concern when I see articles in the internet with the title “How to Get Rich in a Blink of an Eye”.I am always concerned when I see articles in the internet with the title “How to Get Rich in a blink of an eye”. This overpromise can prove to be quite misleading and disappointing.
10 tips to get into and walk the path of happiness everyday
All of us have experienced a "life is beautiful" momentum at some point of our lives, probably as a result of material abundance, achievement of some sort or the presence of particular people and circumstances in our lives. That is, due to external factors. Unfortunately, many events of current society (financial depression, terrorist attacks, diseases and other mischiefs) make that feeling increasingly more aloof, as most of us feel lost, frustrated, fearful or even desperate.
So the question is, why we cannot retain happiness?
Many reasons can be responsible for this. But, probably the most important is that we have been trained – systematically - on how to be unhappy.
I am excited to write an article based on the thoughts that were born as a stimulus from the random discussions I have had in the last few days. Those of you who know me personally are well aware of my opinion about luck: it just does not exist. Everything has a purpose, everything happens for a reason. In the same way, every discussion I enter these days had a purpose –to inspire the content of this article.
Recently a friend asked me what in my opinion is the characteristic that defines me more in my life and that has supported me to succeed consistently my life goals.
In recent years, a very large number of people on the planet have been facing serious challenges in their everyday life, and unfortunately people in Greece - my home country - are no exception.
Many despair as they claim they are unable to control the difficult circumstances and events of their external environment. This victimizing approach make them lose their orientation and feel trapped
Nowadays, the vast amount of expectations from our environment is often overwhelming and leads us to situations we feel that we cannot control or handle successfully. This is the way stress is created. It is one of the most common feelings we are forced to go up against every day.
Stress levels may vary from simple worry to panic attacks, depending on the situation and the way we interpret it.
These situations could be: sitting for an important examination, a professional meeting, a public appearance, a pressing financial situation, a boss who often resorts to shouting, an overloaded schedule and so on.
While the feeling of anxiety or stress can have numerous causes, its deeper roots lie in thoughts (usually unconscious) of inferiority and inadequacy we may harbour. These negative beliefs rid us of our self-confidence and make us feel unable to carry out any kind of task or activity from the most demanding ones, such as public speaking, to the simplest ones, like having a conversation at a friendly gathering.
Anyone suffering from stress and anxiety will often create a programme of daily activities in order to feel absolute control. Any unintentional change in this programme, however, can create an anxiety attack or even a panic attack, due to the loss of control and the resulting unmanageable emotions.
This is a very painful situation and when it occurs, tranquility and joy is lost. We live in constant fear of today and the future. Everything seems like a huge test of our abilities and we exhaust ourselves - because of the need to constantly prove ourselves. Our nervous system is so addicted to this feeling that, for no reason at all, even when things are going well, we continue to reproduce it, thus, constantly remaining in a state of fear and stress, not knowing how we can break free from this vicious circle. We are usually in a state of confusion, not knowing what it is we want or how we can achieve it. As a result, when we act on something we feel dissatisfied and when we do not do anything we feel even worse, proving our inability to ourselves.
More often than not, we are unable to identify whether our worry and anxiety have crossed normal boundaries. Two certain indicators are the frequency and intensity of those feelings. In any case, whenever we found ourselves immersed in them, it is time to take action and start working on ourselves in order to master these emotional and psychological conditions, which are disempowering and detrimental to our health.
Listed below are some of the most common symptoms helping us recognise such a problem:
Excessive worry: The most common form of anxiety is the one we experience on a daily basis when confronted by any kind of issue, big or small. How can we know if we are worrying too much though? If we catch ourselves focusing on our shortcomings or having negative thoughts over a long period of time and these thoughts cause us depression, feelings of helplessness, anxiety, panic and exhaustion then we may be experiencing levels of anxiety that have surpassed the normal and have started to have a negative effect on our health. Therefore, if we feel that we are suffering and dysfuctioning as an immediate result of worrying excessively, we should probably search for a solution and may need to seek a specialist’s advice.
Self-doubt: The inferiority issues mentioned earlier often lead us to never feeling sure about ourselves and to question our judgement and our self-worth. This puts us in the exhausting position of continuous worry about what to say and how to act. In this case we greatly depend on others to make decisions and the different opinions we receive make it even harder, taking our worry and stress to unbearable levels.
Stage-fright: Most of us feel slightly nervous before appearing in public and this can be considered normal. However, when our worry is intense and lasts for days or even weeks (both before the event, worrying about how we will manage, and after, worrying about the impression created on others) we may be approaching a social disorder or a social phobia. If we feel that situations like these define our worth and determine whether or not we are accepted socially, we might cause ourselves insomnia and exhaustion from trying too hard before the event, a panic attack during the event and great disappointment or even depression after the event if we are not satisfied with its outcome.
Agoraphobia: When we have low self-esteem we may often find it hard to deal with simple, everyday situations; talking to a stranger for example, eating in public or even leaving the house and socialising outside. These are all social anxiety situations. We feel as if everyone’s attention is focused on us, as if we being judged and disapproved of. This causes great anxiety, perspiration, nausea and difficulties in breathing and speech. Such symptoms may be the cause of major discomfort and we end up avoiding social encounters altogether, therefore, failing to meet some of our basic needs such as connecting with other, sharing tenderness, love, etc.; that is, feelings arising from creating and maintaining meaningful relationships.
Chronic Indigestion: As we have shown in other articles, our emotions have an effect both on our health and physiology. Stress is no exception. It usually affects our body by creating stomach-ache, cramps, flatulence, constipation or diarrhoea and generally any digestive system disorder. Although all of these symptoms can be caused by other factors besides stress, the combination of the two can create a very bad situation. The digestive system is prone to psychological stress. On the other hand, the occurrence of chronic indigestion can cause social anxiety, making us feel exposed and truly helpless.
Irrational Fears: Some of us face extreme stress in certain situations, such as travelling by plane, or being in crowded areas, or even fear of an animal or insect. These phobias are usually non-existent or meaningless compared to the actual danger the person is in and may be a sign of a psychological dysfunction. The hard part is that such fears are not always obvious and occur only when faced with the situation. Only then do we discover that we are paralysed by a feeling of intense fear, which can put the brakes on our activities. However, although these symptoms only occur occasionally, they are a clear indication that there is something wrong and we should seek for a solution.
Sleeping Problems: Insomnia occurs regularly when under extreme stress. Our mind cannot stop processing thoughts and this becomes a cause of irritation and exhaustion. When this problem becomes chronic, it may have significant health ramifications and must be addressed.
Panic Attacks: Panic attacks are usually a strong and sudden occurrence of terror that can happen even to the strongest of people. This might occur if we suddenly find ourselves in situations facing life and death, that is, situations that go beyond our control area. This creates an unprecedented feeling of helplessness that shatters the image that we have of ourselves. Panic attacks occur with intense physical reactions, such as difficulty in breathing, numbness, perspiration, rapid heart-beat, dizziness, intense pain in the chest or stomach or changes in body temperature. Feelings of helplessness and fear may only last a few minutes, leaving us in great distress and shock, without being able to react. Panic attacks are not always associated with stress or anxiety, but those who have experienced such crises are constantly vigilant subconsciously, fearing when and under what circumstances they will experience a new crisis, putting them in a state of frequent or even permanent anxiety.
Perfectionism: If we have ever caught ourselves or others continuously seeking perfection- to the point where everything is criticised, or feeling severe stress over the outcome of various situations or over the possibility of making mistakes, then we might be suffering from some king of stress related disorder.
Whatever the origin of anxiety, it is important to know that it can be overcome instantly but also in the long run, whatever its form or intensity, by following one or more of the suggestions below:
- An immediate way of dealing with anxiety or a panic attack is through breathing exercises. Through breathing, oxygen circulates in the brain, the body relaxes and there is clarity about what is actually happening. Take deep breaths and inhale in four counts, then, hold your breath for as long as you can and exhale in four counts. Repeat this process until you feel your mind and body relax. You should practice this daily in order to help yourself become familiar with the relaxation breathing can offer. In this way the process will become faster and more effective when you need it.
- Take your mind off the unpleasant situation. Try to focus your attention on something else. Distance yourself from what is happening and immediately change activities. By going for a walk, singing your favourite song out loud or watching a pleasant film, you sever the neurological ties that connect you to the event, consequently helping you calm down.
- Do not let your mind dwell on what stresses you. Choose to focus on something empowering. You can use the following statements. Choose the ones that suit you and spend time during the day repeating them to yourself.
📌 “There is always time for everything”.
📌 “I have control over myself and my life”.
📌 “I am sufficient; I always have been and always will be sufficient”.
📌 “I allow peace and tranquillity to settle in my mind”.
📌 “I can cope with any situation that presents itself”.
📌 “I am free from anxiety”.
📌 “I always do my best”.
📌 “I forgive myself for overdoing it”.
📌 “I am protected; nothing bad can happen to me”.
📌 “There is no failure, only lessons to be learnt. I learn and move on with my life”.
- Introduce to your life any meditation technique that works for you. We suggest that you use guided and creative meditations like the ones you can find in our website. All you have to do is find a quiet place and surrender your senses to the journey of meditation connecting you to feelings of peace, tranquillity and faith. Your neurological system will gradually get used to these beneficial emotions and you will find yourself feeling them more often or even on a permanent basis.
- Anxiety and stress are usually the results of worry and fear of what will happen in the future. If you are stressed about something that happened in the past then you basically fear it happening again in the future. An extremely effective way to deal with a situation like this is to connect with a safe, happy and successful future. This can be achieved by:
📌 Creating a specific vision for yourself, in which your future shines brightly. This will help you immediately feel more relaxed. Connect to this future daily. Find time during the day to imagine or write about this great future. You will become familiar with the emotions created by the sweet longing of this much wanted reality. Gradually this future will seem within your reach and capabilities. In this way your stress will evaporate.
📌Choose to talk about your future in a positive way, expressing your excitement and faith in all it holds.
📌 Many of us, especially men, have difficulty admitting to anxiety issues or having panic attacks, thinking that this will destroy the image of a strong person who is always in control, which is what is demanded by society. This, however, is only a stereotype. Recognising the problem and treating it can safeguard our future: such issues can make our everyday life most unpleasant, they are detrimental to our mental and spiritual health and they distract us from enjoying a carefree life. Let us not neglect them. Let us take action now to change our lives for the better.
If there is a chance that you are in doubt about whether you are experiencing severe stress that borders on a psychological disorder or the possibility of a panic attack you should seek immediate help in order to find the cause and end this predicament. Search for a solution directly and rid yourself of stress. We can help you.
Our brain receives around 40 bits of information per second, through our five senses. If we were trying to perceive them all, we would go crazy. In order for our mind to cope with this massive inflow of information, it uses the subconscious or right hemisphere of the brain, as a filter. In such a way, from the millions of bits of information, only few pass through to the conscious mind, or left hemisphere of the brain and give us a perception of the “reality” we are living.
Wouldn’t you desire, from time to time, to be able to use a magic wand to change things in your life that are not the way you want? For instance, to vanish your outrageous boss, to make a new and exciting relationship appear, to get an important increase in salary, etc. Well, the truth is that such wonderful changes are absolutely possible! We will discuss this more extensively in some future article. What I want to share with you today is an exceptional process that you can apply immediately to make a change in some field of your life.